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Still Stuck in InFertility & IVF Burnout? The Subtle Shift That Changes Everything
Apr 18, 2025
Why Slowing Down Could Be the Missing Key to Your Fertility Breakthrough
If you're exhausted from trying everything to get pregnant—tracking ovulation, going gluten-free, testing every hormone, meditating like a monk—but still feel stuck in an invisible loop… this post is for you.
Because here’s the truth bomb no one in the fertility world wants to drop:
👉 You can’t trust your body if you don’t feel safe inside it.
And that, beautiful soul, might be the real root of your fertility challenges.
Fertility Burnout: When Doing More Stops Working
Fertility burnout is real. And the most dangerous part? It tricks you into thinking you're making progress when you're actually stuck in overdrive. Your nervous system is frazzled, your gut is inflamed, your hormones are waving the white flag—and still, you’re asking, “What else should I do?”
But sometimes, the answer isn’t another protocol or practitioner.
It’s not more knowledge—it’s integration.
“The magic doesn’t lie in the knowledge. It’s in the coherence. The alignment. The slowing down.”
In this week’s Finding Fertility Podcast episode, I share the story of Mabel—our fictional-but-all-too-real friend who finally did something different: she stopped. Not out of failure. Not because she gave up. But because her soul was begging for stillness. And in that pause, everything started shifting.
Why You Still Don’t Trust Your Body (Even After All the Healing Work)
One of the most common blocks I see in fertility breakthrough sessions is this:
A woman knows she should trust her body, but deep down, she just doesn’t.
Here’s why that happens:
When you’ve been through IVF trauma, medical gaslighting, or lived with chronic anxiety, your body stops feeling like a safe place. You live from the neck up, trying to think your way to clarity… but trust doesn’t live in your head.
It lives in your fascia.
In your womb.
In your frequency.
“If your nervous system is still in survival mode, it’s going to be nearly impossible to hear your intuition.”
You can journal, affirm, or vision board all you want—but if your cells are still wired for fight-or-flight, your body won’t believe you. And neither will your baby.
The Gut-Brain-Womb Connection (Yes, It’s a Thing)
Let’s talk about something rarely acknowledged in traditional fertility circles:
Your gut health is intimately connected to your emotional and reproductive health.
If you’ve got unresolved trauma, stuck emotions, or decades of pushing yourself too hard, it’s likely showing up in your gut—and that inflammation? It travels. Right to your reproductive system.
Think fibroids, endometriosis, cycle irregularities… even so-called “unexplained infertility.”
Your womb is a mirror. And if your gut and nervous system are holding old stories of fear and control, your womb can’t open to new life.
Real Healing Happens in the Mundane
You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. You need to get radically honest in the little moments.
Can you pause during your next spiral of overthinking and ask:
“What would alignment look like right now?”
Maybe it’s placing a hand on your belly.
Maybe it’s crying in the car.
Maybe it’s finally booking that session you’ve been avoiding.
The point is: healing happens in those micro-moments. Not in the next supplement, detox, or miracle food.
“Stillness isn’t laziness—it’s safety. And safety is the fertile ground for creation.”
Final Truth: Your Baby is Waiting for Your Frequency to Rise
Your spirit baby is not waiting for perfection.
They’re waiting for coherence—for you to come home to your body, to stop hustling, and to anchor into trust.
And yes, it’s scary.
Yes, it requires deep work.
But this is the kind of inner shift that makes miracles possible.
Because the real fertility breakthrough?
It’s not outside of you.
It’s already within.
🎧 Ready to hear it all for yourself?
Listen to this week's episode of the Finding Fertility Podcast and discover how Mabel made a simple yet powerful shift that changed everything.
Read: Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?
And if you’re feeling that nudge to go deeper—book a Fertility Breakthrough Session with me. Let’s uncover the hidden block that’s still keeping you stuck.
Because your body is wise.
Your soul is ready.
And your baby?
They’re waiting for you
We’re Doing This Together,
💚 Monica
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Listen up, lovelies: Everything I share about health, diet, or fertility magic is my opinion. Yep, it’s all based on years of trial and error, study, reading, listening, and side-eyeing the nonsense out there. What worked for me might be a jackpot for you—or it might be a total flop. Bodies are weird like that. 🤷♀️
Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a doctor, nutritionist, dietitian, or any other kind of licensed health wizard. If you need medical advice, run—don’t walk—to an actual qualified professional. Don’t come back here saying Monique told you to eat kale for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, okay?
As for the products I mention, they’re either what I used during my own infertility rollercoaster or what I wish I’d known about back then. No guarantees, no promises, and absolutely no refunds on your hope budget if it doesn’t work out.
Now that we’ve cleared that up, proceed with curiosity and, above all, discernment. You’ve got this. 💪✨
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Hello, beautiful, and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.
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Monica, your mentor in uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey. Together, we'll discover the right path for you within the six essential steps to creating the family of your dreams. We'll ditch the overwhelm, tune into your intuition, and build a vibrant foundation for your fertility. Whether it's through gut health, subconscious healing, or energetic alignment, you can unlock your body's natural power to get and stay pregnant.
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Your fertility journey is all about radical responsibility and deeply believing that your body is on your side. It's time to stay consistent, embrace trust, surrender, and create the transformation you deserve. Finding fertility does not diagnose, prescribe, or treat any fertility issues. What we do is empower you to take control of your health by uncovering the root causes holding you back. Let's do this together.
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Happy Friyay! Welcome back to another episode of Finding Fertility. I'm your host Monica Cox and I am so honored you are here with me becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. So today is going to be short and sweet because listen, if you are reading the Mabel, Monique, and Monica series, you will see that Mabel did the most important thing, the hardest thing for us to do. She took a different action.
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instead of looping and spiraling into the same old overdoing, over controlling. This is the moments, the micro moments, that you guys really start shifting your energy and your frequency when you take that opposite action. So the knowing is vital. It is really important. Your conscious brain needs to have this knowledge.
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But the magic doesn't lie in the knowledge. It is in the integration, the coherence, the alignment. So in today's chapter or this week's chapter, Mabel didn't discover something new to do, a new trick, a new modality. She just did something different. She slowed down, not just physically, but energetically. And that subtle
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conscious decision shifted everything for her in that moment because when you read the story you will see that she finally got quite enough to receive the messages she's been searching for. And I know you feel this in your bones because I know you're living this right now. I live this. I'm still living through this. This
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path of growth and expansion. never stops, but it gets easier, okay? We're not gonna stay in the thick of it forever, but your old self will fight you over stillness because she doesn't believe that it's safe and she thinks that in order to be safe, she has to be in control. But the real safety, the kind that your body and your future baby is craving, comes from that coherence.
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that stillness, not the chaos that we are so used to. So when you finally stop overdoing and start listening, everything can start changing for you. Not just your mindset or your cycle, your connection changes, your alignment sharpens, your frequency rises. So I want to ask, and I had a fertility breakthrough session today and I want to bring in
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what we uncovered for her because this is a very beautiful soul who is not willing to give up and she has been in this journey for far too long and even has had some really amazing grounding principles in mindset and has taken, I'm not gonna say the course, but there's another fertility, you know, there's tons of us fertility women out there.
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But here's the thing, I'm not claiming to have all the answers and I'm not the only one doing this, but there is a missing piece between the mindset and coherence. Okay, and that's taking that radical honesty, that look at what you are doing and what you have been through that is potentially keeping you stuck from applying the knowledge that you have gained. So one of her big issues is trusting her body, but
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when we tapped into the root cause of why she couldn't trust her body, she didn't feel safe in her body for very, very real reasons, okay? Let me just say the three that she said are in the top five of the hardest things a woman would have to go through in her life, okay? So we didn't tackle all of them in this little session.
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but we started tackling one and when you don't feel safe in your body, it is almost impossible to trust yourself because your body is that vessel that you are going to feel and sense the vibration of what is trying to come through and if that vibration, if that frequency
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is disrupted by past events that can shatter your nervous system and have total chaos going on through your fascia. It is going, like, I don't want to say nothing's impossible, but it is going to be extremely hard and you are going to continue to loop in the same patterns over and over again and you are going to most likely have
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real physical issues especially in the womb area including fibroids, including endometriosis, all those things that are yes you're genetically prone but are more of a situation that is due to from outside circumstances not necessarily genetics. So you cannot trust your body when you do not
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feel safe in it. If your body feels like the enemy, if your body has been disappointing you over and over again, if your body has real physical and emotional trauma, if your nervous system is living in a constant state or fight or flight because of past situations, then the course of trust almost feels impossible and it's very hard to really feel
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and get in alignment with your intuition because trust doesn't live in your brain, it lives in your body. And one of the things that got brought up in this session is that she's been told that she shouldn't feel her emotions. should just, that's just going to make it worse. She should just, you know, try to think positive thoughts or get herself out of the situation or whatever it is. And people who are saying that,
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do not understand how emotions and frequency are real living things that are unseen and how they move through and react and express in the body. So one of the tips that I gave her is that when we're moving through a big emotional thing, and I'll give you a little example for me, okay?
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If you've been listening to this podcast, you know I took care of my father at the end of his life last year and he passed away in November, like less than a week after his birthday. with all my knowledge and all my modalities, I have really sailed through this really huge life event in my life. But, but...
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That doesn't mean I still don't have waves of that crash down on me and I could cry right now of grief and even like anger around certain situations that contributed to why my father passed away so young. He was only 68 and it didn't have to be that way and so instead of
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me pushing away those waves of grief or even, you know, using modalities right away to like get rid of it, I allow myself to sit in it and feel it because that's what my body is saying that it needs at that moment in time. And sometimes it's heavier and sometimes it's not, but I do not ignore that I'm going to be processing that.
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for a while and that is okay. So there's things in our lives that need more TLC and it's not a quick fix. know, as much as I love subconscious empowerment and breath work and emotional freedom tapping and all those, some of these things are really multi-layered and we have to honor ourselves that we have been living with these things too for decades. And so
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we cannot show up to this journey and think, oh, well, I've done X, Y, and Z, so therefore I should be over this now. It just doesn't work that way. And that's why I always say the magic is in the mundane, because it's in the mundane that you are recognizing and having that radical responsibility of what's happening.
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what you need to be moving through. So it's not this constant search, I need to heal, I need to do this, I need to do that. You're just being honest with yourself. Where am I? How am I feeling? What am I doing? Okay. And then you need to investigate what does that need? Does that need a walk outside? Does that just need a connection with nature? Does that need a prayer? Does that need a song? Do I need a dance? Or do I need to go deeper with this?
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Do I need a quiet meditation session, a journaling session? I just booked in with a, I guess a psychiatrist. I don't even know what he is. He's a doctor. And I paid a lot of money for a 45 minute session. Even though I have these techniques, there's something that is...
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really heavy on my heart that I need to break through and I know working with someone else is going to get me way quicker there. So it's asking yourself, where am I? What kind of support do I need? And then taking that action to do it and bringing in that consistency. So if you are feeling like stuck, like Monica, I hear you but I
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just don't know what to do. This is why I'm writing the Monika Monique Mabel series is that you can just read instead of learn and witness this in action. Mabel is just doing something completely different than what she's used to and she's getting still and she's sitting in the uncomfortableness of the stillness and she's seeing the magic
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that comes from it. And next week is even more magical, if I do say so myself. Sometimes I feel like, what a beautiful, brilliant brain you have to come up with these things. But she actually is scattered priorities. Once again, these are patterns that we are gonna loop and loop until we get real real with ourselves.
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When we have been doing it all, working with different practitioners, trying to piece it all together and we don't feel like we want to start over again, or even if we're feeling like this practitioner I've been working with, it's not quote unquote working or this is what I've been taught and just get real real with yourself, is it working? Are you seeing the results that you want to see?
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And if that is a hard no, then you have to shift. And next week, Mabel is gonna deep dive into all the things that she is doing to make her dreams come true and really start prioritizing.
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What is it that she truly needs? And when she's able to do this and when she's able to open up she receives and she has the most beautiful dream ever with her quote-unquote spirit baby because if you guys have been around here long enough, you know, I don't believe that they are babies They are very events souls And especially your children they are waiting for you
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to elevate yourself so they can come down and not have to deal with the drama that we dealt with, the emotional baggage that gets handed down, the food sensitivities, the gut health issues, the fertility issues. They are like, hey, mama, I want better. So you have to do better for us. And that is a big, big, big ask, but I can hand on heart tell you.
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that when you are through the thick of it, when you are holding your babies, when you are making conscious decisions to really elevate your life and your family's life, you will thank yourself for continuously showing up for yourself. So please come back next week. Watch out. If you're not on the email list, make sure you get the email list because I email you when the series is out so you can go read it. And this week I am asking you not to do
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anything more and just invite you to do one small thing differently even if it's just taking five minutes putting your hand on your heart and hand on your belly and asking what part of me is running the show right now let your body speak to you let your body be heard and then ask what would alignment look like in this moment you don't need to fix anything
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You don't have to rush clarity. You just have to slow down long enough to let the truth rise. So until then, have a beautiful weekend and we'll see you next Friday on another episode of Finding Fertility. Thank you once again for tuning in and becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. Remember, I wasn't some magical unicorn who stumbled into fertility success. I stayed consistent. I put in the work and I made it happen. And guess what?
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you can too. And I have something for my loyal podcast listeners, but here's the key. This is only for women who are feeling burnt out, frustrated, and stuck in the cycle of endless research. And you're at a point where you are screaming, I have tried everything. Why isn't this working? This only works for women who are ready to take a radical responsibility for their journey and start listening to their body's innate wisdom.
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Because deep down, you know you can heal and achieve your ultimate goal. If that's not you yet, that's okay. Not everyone is ready yet to show up with ease, deeply connect to their energy, unlock subconscious patterns, and listen to their body's ability to come into full coherence. But for those who are ready, I'm offering something I only do with my paying clients, and this is a fertility breakthrough session.
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This is the first thing I do even before I start really deeply working with someone in a coaching package. It's a deep dive session where we look at exactly where you are right now, what's keeping you stuck and the easy shifts that can change everything. But fair warning, these sessions are very limited and go fast. So if you're interested in checking out my superpower for uncovering exactly what's been overlooked, jump into one of these
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free calls. They're deep, they're intuitive, and they're game changing. The only way you can access this is if you actually personally message me. You can do it on your favorite platform, IG, TikTok, or at my personal email, monica at findingfertility.co, not .com because they wanted $3,000 for the M with just one word, and that word is dreams, obviously.
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