Overcoming Infertility Blocks: The Truth About Fear and Radical Responsibility

I was lying to myself because I was stuck in fear.

I built a story—like so many women navigating infertility—that I had no other choice. That I had to keep showing up a certain way. That if I didn’t, everything I’d worked for—my health, my fertility journey, my business—would fall apart.

But the truth? It was just a story.

And here’s the crazy part: I didn’t even realize I was doing it.

Recently, during a Community Session, I had an eye-opening moment with one of our members. I asked her: "How would it feel if you got so sick you couldn’t get out of bed—and all the people and things you’re so worried about letting down… got let down anyway?"

Her response stopped me in my tracks.

She said, “Relief. I’d feel relieved that I didn’t have to do it all.”

It broke my heart.

Fear and the Infertility Journey

Maybe you can relate to her story.

She’s the breadwinner. She’s juggling it all because she feels like she has no other choice. She’s perfected her diet and supplements—all the things she thinks are supporting her fertility.

But here’s the kicker: she knows what’s at the root of her chronic fatigue, autoimmune issues, and fertility struggles. And still, she keeps going.

And on top of all this, she’s preparing for IVF.

Here’s the hard truth: she’s choosing to stay in this pattern.

And I get it—because I was there, too.

How Fear Impacts Fertility

It’s not easy to take the kind of bold action that will change your life and fertility journey. But if you don’t, it comes at a cost—your health, your joy, and the life of your dreams.

This isn’t just about getting pregnant. Many of my clients are navigating secondary infertility or have had a baby and still feel stuck in the same patterns. Just having a baby doesn’t magically create the life you’ve been dreaming of.

The truth is, the patterns you’re running now will still be running after the baby arrives—or after the “next thing” you’re working toward.

The Importance of Aligned Action in Fertility

You have to take aligned action—in both the physical world and the energetic realm—to heal your body and boost your fertility.

If you feel like you’re doing everything and nothing’s working, it’s probably because you’re not taking radical responsibility for how you’re showing up in the physical world.

If your job is stressing you the f*ck out, and all the fertility diets, supplements, and holistic practices aren’t “working,” here’s the truth:
You have to quit your job and figure out a different way. PERIOD.

Because doing the same thing and expecting different results? That’s insanity.

So, ask yourself: What is one hard action you’ve been avoiding that could dramatically change your life and your fertility journey?

The Bold Move I’m Making

If you’re wondering what I’m doing, here’s my big, bold move: I’m dramatically lowering my activity on social media.

For the next four months, I’m going dark on Instagram and focusing only on creating content for Monique and Monica TikTok.

Why?

Because social media is a never-ending grind that sucks the creativity and joy out of my life. And creativity and joy are essential for building the family of your dreams—and beyond.

Like so many others, I’d built a story that I “had to do it this way” and that I had no other choice. But it’s just a story—and it’s not true.

My fertility journey taught me that.

So, once again, I’m stepping outside the “normal” box, facing my fears, and diving into the unknown.

Permission to Take Bold Action in Your Fertility Journey

I hope this gives you the permission you’ve been waiting for—to take that scary, bold action you’ve been avoiding in your fertility journey.

Because here’s the truth: You don’t have to keep running the same patterns.

You can choose a new way, one step at a time. And if you’re ready to explore that path and need support, join one of our Community Sessions or one-to-one. It’s where the real work happens—and it’s worth it.

Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica

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